Be the Cause
A mellow type of fellow that's changign alot these days

suicides and sewer-sides

This post is rated PG-13. I’ll leave it up to the moderators to decide to leave it up or censor it. This is from an email I just sent someone earlier this morning. Some of it edited. Don’t worry this isn’t from someone you know or from any of “official or un-offical” Be the cause gang members. It doesn’t matter who it’s from. I think they have calmed down and I want them to come to this site and read this and hopefully find some thing better than wallowing in their own demise.

I can’t come up with any better advice than Todd Anthony Shaw (the dirty rapper, Too $hort, that talks about pimping women and making money but I think he’s dealt with depression and being suicidal so I found these pretty cool in this song where he brags about how good his life on this first album that went platinum).

Life is to some people unbearable.
Committin suicide and thats terrible.
Was it much too much or nothing big?
If you live my life, you’d be fighting to live.
Life is to me my main asset.
I be doing all right, and keep it just like that.
Chill out at the house and bump that bass.
I’m trying to get rich as I rock the place.
Everybody’s got that same old dream:
To have big money and fancy things.
Drive a brand new Benz, or keep your bank right here.
You’ll never hear me stutter once because I talk real clear.
Its on you, homeboy, watcha gonna do?
You can take my advice and start workin, fool!
Or you can close your ears and run your mouth,
And one day, homeboy, you’ll soon find out
Life is too short…
Too short!
Life is too short.

Life is too short, would you agree?
When I’m living my life, don’t mess with me
Its been a long time, baby, since I first got down,
But I still keep making these funky sounds.
‘Cause I don’t stop rapping, thats my theme.
I make a lot of money, do you know what I mean?
Life is complicated; You must stay up!
When you’re asked a simple question, boy, don’t say “what?”
You’ll only live once and then crawlin’ in hell.. (or was it “you only live once, so don’t be calling it
hell”).
Police men trying to take me to jail…

You can take back all the things you give
But ya cant take back the days you live.

Life is to some people heaven on earth:
Living every single day for what its worth.
I live my life just how I please;
Satisfy only one person I know–that’s me.
I worked hard for the things I achieved in life.
And never rapped fake when I’m on the mic’.
‘Cause if a dream is all you got, homeboy,
Ya gotta turn that dream into The Real Mccoy.
No time to waste, just get on that case.
You cant be down, ’cause you need to taste
The good life — living like a king on a throne
Getting everything you want, trying to handle your own
life..

Dont be stupid though,
Cause when you waste it,
you’ll know
Life is Too Short.

[‘Cause ’til ya waste it, you’ll never know how short life is]

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Back Home from Sri Lanka

I feel drained and tired and slept most of the last 20 or so hours. I got the flu too.But I’m awake now and thinking of what to write. I hope the others will write more too. Putting things on the blog help me remember my state of mind on certain days and I wish to swim in the mind of the other travelers too.

First I’ll start with my disappointments (there were few and nothing all that bad). The first on on my mind was how I ran out of time to get some really cool flyers that we thought of printed out. I asked Christine if she can work with Sarvodaya to get that last minute project off the ground. While we were on the bus going back to Colombo we started to talk about if we could do something to counter the bomb blasts in some small way. Our friend Dinoo was on the same road in the same place as a bomb blast just an hour or so before it went off. Shwetha suggested that we meditate and I think some of the crew went to a Kohvil and did just that. The plan with the flyers was this: the phrases “Send this to where there is suffering,” “Without violence, let us progress,” “Be the change you wish to see in this world” were translated into Tamil, Sinhala, and English. The top of the flyer that a few lit candles in a row followed by a couple of candles touching and one lighting another followed by a more unlit candles. At the bottom was stick figures holding hands until there is one stick figure offering the flyer and other stick figure receiving the flyer followed by a few stick figures that aren’t holding their hands. I hope we can get a few 100 printed and would be nice to have people reading and passing on to others. Unfortunately time was not enough to accomplish it fast enough. I think one mistake I made was to give my uncle the job of translating it, instead of just asking people on the street. Laura and I went to a store that did photo development in Vellawatte. It was a good mix of Tamil and Sinhala speaking co-workers. They were all respectful to eachoother and got along great. They would call each other “akka” “aiya” “mali” “nangi” (Brother/sister) when addressing each other. So that is big hope to know the “ethnic problem” does have a model of solution for when the violence stops. I realized how stupid I was not to take the oppurtnity to have those workers translate my flyer and print it for me right then and there just 2 minutes ago. d’oh!

I think alot of us Be The Cause gang members feel that we didn’t do enough after a project. I feel the same way after a very fulfilling 2 weeks. There was more to do.

I think I know how to end the war. I think we all do, but I am disappointed I don’t know how to start or have the fearlessness to just start anywhere. Maybe in another 2 years or tomorrow…

Christine and I had a tough conversation during the middle of the trip. I don’t think I was able to completely lay my thoughts out to where there was full understanding.

I gave 1000 rupees to a 3 wheeler driver and asked him to do something nice for someone. He asked if it was ok if he used it and I responded by saying “if you are hungry, and you need to do something for yourself, go ahead.” But what I wanted to say is that if he wanted to do something for himself take someone random along. For example if he was hungry, to find someone else that was hungry and enjoy a meal together. But I was too lazy to think of the translation.

I didn’t do enough to show the mason that helped building the library the appreciation I had for him. He was very shy, and I could not create a long conversation with him.  I’m still one of the shyest people I know but I think I worked through that a lot on this trip having to translate and kind of be a “spokesperson”. But I can’t figure out why I didn’t do that with him.

I wasn’t able to bring up my experience with the India trip enough when having conversations with locals.

Of course the little tiffs with fellow travelers were dissapointing , but I’ll accept that as “part of the process.”

After the India Service trip, one of the main changes in me was to be aware of my waste and my delusions to depend on luxury. Going to Sri Lanka reminded me of what I forgot from that in the last 2 years. Reading Gandhi’s “Criticism of Modern Civilization” added to my awareness on this trip.

After the stupid bullshit ethnic wars are resolved in South Asia, I think the poverty problem can be solved if they analyze how much money is being wasted in trivial imports. The lack of debt from the shrinking of war budgets will be a big help too. South Asian minds don’t feel free unless there is a sensible balance of self-rule and self-control, I think.

Now on to the good thoughts:

Raj, Anna, and Christine were my biggest inspiration during the trip. Of course everyone is a living inspiration especially the rest of the gang I traveled with. There was a very unique sense of calm and quiet analysis that I fed in from Anna, Raj and Christine.

Jason and Gianna were our smile. They brought a free spirited light to the group. They smiled through a little bit of sickness. When they sang they put good feeling into it. They were good at teaching and have a great understanding for showing joy. They were able to create joy.

Laura, Shwetha and Sonali were the personification of our hearts. Their spiritual awareness to each moment kept us in a special place where ever we went.

Sudi, Raju and Madhvi were the personification of our blood. They were always down to do anything and everything and make it fun. Seeing Madhvi sing a Hindi song while feeling shy at the first tsunami camp inspired me to be less shy and I think I ended up being more talkative in a group setting when I had to talk for the group. I always noticed these 3 as the first to invent new ways to interact. They were creative too.

So many people helped us along the way. Sonali’s aunts and uncles were always there for us. Without the support of the various school staff the interaction at the schools were not possible. Most of the shop keepers and hotel management did take the time to understand where we were coming from. Our drivers, especially Silva our best friend in sri lanka, took us safely. So much good food was made for us with love because the cooks also knew why we came. It felt good that whenever we arrived somewhere it was cause for people to come together if only to welcome us. Every person that came to welcome us made the trip fulfilling. Each person showed us about where they lived in some small way.

I learned alot. I’m still not sure if I move away from America that Sri Lanka will be a long term place for me. But there is certainly more consideration in my mind that I had before I came back.

Hopefully, I’ll use this trip to be more Sri Lankan in my interaction with people in LA. Hopefully I can think a little differently.

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